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Head vs Heart Coaching
Ariel Brewer, PhD
Bringing you back home to each other
This.
Deep, heartfelt connection is what every one of us is after.
Even if it's messy. Even if there's pain behind the eyes, or sadness, or fear.
We just want to know we're not alone.
Behind every guarded heart is a longing to be seen. To be felt.
To be met in the messy, the vulnerable, the truth.
It’s in that space that healing begins, and love becomes something we can actually trust.
With my couples, I settle for nothing less—
and witness this in front of my eyes.
You've tried "all the things"
and you're still stuck
Nothing changes. The arguments never stop, or worse, you barely speak, living like strangers under one roof. You feel unheard, misunderstood, and completely alone, no matter how hard you both try.
Every effort to reconnect falls flat, leaving you wondering if things will ever get better, or if this painful distance is your new normal.
Or worse — the marriage ends...
This marriage holds your history—
your laughter, your struggles, your triumphs.
You’ve been through so much together, survived things that could’ve broken you.
That kind of love doesn’t just disappear, it just gets buried under all the hurt and disappointment.
~But~
It's still worth fighting for, because deep down—
you know it still matters.
My Stance
Head vs Heart Coaching combines the best of both worlds. Head and Heart. Our head provide us with a wealth of information, but we must also rely on our heart's intangible whisper to guide the way.
My rigorous scientific background in Integrative Neuroscience greatly enhances my ability to solve your relationship issues since I am trained to focus on the details that others might miss. I am very detail-oriented and am able to hone in on where exactly your relationship problems are coming from. I break down your issues, find the patterns, and figure out what's actually going on beneath the surface. The devil really is in the details and I zero in on them like a hawk.
I have extensive training in somatic work and specialized couples therapy methodology that allows me to offer you a comprehensive and unique approach to relationship healing that goes well beyond traditional therapy.
My specialized approach helps couples rebuild trust and intimacy— even when nothing else has worked.
Credentials
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PhD in Behavioral Neuroscience (Stony Brook University)
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Certified Relational Life Therapy (RLT) coach for couples
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Certified VITA™ coach with a focus on somatic work
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MA Psychology (Stony Brook University)
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BA Psychology (Stony Brook University, Summa cum Laude)
Client Experiences
The Process
One
We start off with phase 1 —
a deep dive into EXACTLY where you are struggling the most.
My goal here is to get an even more granular understanding of your dynamic so I know precisely where we need to focus our work together.
Two
In phase 2, we focus on actually moving the needle by doing subconscious work like somatic therapy and inner child work. This is geared directly and specifically towards what we discover in phase 1.
Three
Then and only then can we start learning skills like communication techniques or conflict resolution tools. And to be honest, this is where most therapists will focus, and in my opinion, it’s missing the forest for the trees. We need to build the capacity to do this work first. Otherwise, you are going to fall RIGHT back into old patterns.
I’m with you every step of the way. This isn’t a “see you next week” kind of program—I don’t just hand you tools and hope for the best. I walk alongside you, offering consistent guidance and support until you find steady, lasting ground.
And you absolutely will!
Ready to feel in love with your spouse again?
Message me the word HOPE below and take the first step toward lasting change...for good!
